حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدَانُ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللّٰهِ، أَخْبَرَنَا ابْنُ جُرَيْجٍ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي عَبْدُ اللّٰهِ بْنُ عُبَيْدِ اللّٰهِ بْنِ أَبِي مُلَيْكَةَ، قَالَ تُوُفّيَتِ ابْنَةٌ لِعُثْمَانَ، رضى الله عنه، بِمَكَّةَ وَجِئْنَا لِنَشْهَدَهَا، وَحَضَرَهَا ابْنُ عُمَرَ وَابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ، رضى اللّٰه عنهم، وَإِنّي لَجَالِسٌ بَيْنَهُمَاـ أَوْ قَالَ جَلَسْتُ إِلَى أَحَدِهِمَا۔ ثُمَّ جَاءَ الآخَرُ، فَجَلَسَ إِلَى جَنْبِي فَقَالَ عَبْدُ اللّٰهِ بْنُ عَمَرَ، رضى اللّٰه عنهما، لِعَمْرِو بْنِ عُثْمَانَ أَلاَ تَنْهَى عَنِ الْبُكَاءِ، فَإِنَّ رَسُولَ اللّٰهِ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّم قَالَ »إِنَّ الْمَيّتَ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ». فَقَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ، رضى اللّٰه عنهما، قَدْ كَانَ عُمَرُ، رضى اللّٰه عنه، يَقُولُ بَعْضَ ذَلِكَ، ثُمَّ حَدَّثَ قَالَ صَدَرْتُ مَعَ عُمَرَ، رضى اللّٰه عنه، مِنْ مَكَّةَ حَتَّى إِذَا كُنَّا بِالْبَيْدَاءِ، إِذَا هُوَ بِرَكْبٍ تَحْتَ ظِلّ سَمُرَةٍ فَقَالَ اذْهَبْ، فَانْظُرْ مَنْ هَؤُلاَءِ الرَّكْبُ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ فَإِذَا صُهَيْبٌ، فَأَخْبَرْتُهُ فَقَالَ ادْعُهُ لِي. فَرَجَعْتُ إِلَى صُهَيْبٍ فَقُلْتُ ارْتَحِلْ فَالْحَقْ أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ. فَلَمَّا أُصِيبَ عُمَرُ دَخَلَ صُهَيْبٌ يَبْكِي يَقُولُ وَاأَخَاهُ، وَاصَاحِبَاهُ. فَقَالَ عُمَرُ، رضى اللّٰه عنه، يَا صُهَيْبُ أَتَبْكِي عَلَىَّ وَقَدْ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللّٰهِ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّم »إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ يُعَذَّبُ بِبَعْضِ بُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ». قَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ، رضى اللّٰه عنهما فَلَمَّا مَاتَ عُمَرُ، رضى اللّٰه عنه، ذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِعَائِشَةَ، رضى اللّٰه عنها، فَقَالَتْ رَحِمَ اللَّهُ عُمَرَ، وَاللّٰهِ مَا حَدَّثَ رَسُولُ اللّٰهِ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّم إِنَّ اللّٰهَ لَيُعَذّبُ الْمُؤْمِنَ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ. وَلَكِنَّ رَسُولَ اللّٰهِ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّم قَالَ ”إِنَّ اللّٰهَ لَيَزِيدُ الْكَافِرَ عَذَابًا بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ». وَقَالَتْ حَسْبُكُمُ الْقُرْآنُ {وَلَا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِّزۡرَ اُخۡرٰي}. قَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ، رضى اللّٰه عنهما، عِنْدَ ذَلِكَ وَاللّٰهُ هُوَ أَضْحَكَ وَأَبْكَى۔ قَالَ ابْنُ أَبِي مُلَيْكَةَ وَاللّٰهِ مَا قَالَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ، رضى اللّٰه عنهما، شَيْئًا.
Abdullah bin Ubaidullah bin Abi Mulaika narrated, “One of the daughters of Uthmanra died at Mecca. We went to attend her funeral procession. Ibn Umarra and Ibn Abbasra were also present. I sat in between them (or said, I sat beside one of them. Then a man came and sat beside me.) Abdullah bin Umarra said to Amr bin Uthman, ‘Will you not prohibit crying as Allah’s Messengersa has said, ‘The deceased person is tortured by the crying of his relatives’?’ Ibn Abbasra said, ‘Umarra used to say so.’ Then he added narrating, ‘I accompanied Umarra on a journey from Mecca till we reached Al-Baida. There he saw some travellers in the shade of a Samura (tree). He said (to me), ‘Go and see who those travellers are.’ So I went and saw that one of them was Suhaib. I told this to Umarra who then asked me to call him. So, I returned to Suhaib and said to him, ‘Depart and follow Amirul Momininra.’’ Later, when Umarra was stabbed, Suhaib came in weeping and saying, ‘O my brother, O my friend!’ (On this Umarra said to him, ‘O Suhaib! Are you weeping for me while Allah’s Messengerra said, ‘The deceased person is punished by some of the weeping of his relatives’?’ Ibn Abbasra added, ‘When Umar passed away, I told all this to Aishara and she said, ‘May Allah be merciful to Umarra. By Allah, Allah’s Messengersa did not say that a believer is punished by the weeping of his relatives. But he said, Allah increases the punishment of a non-believer because of the weeping of his relatives.’ Aishara further added, ‘The Quran is sufficient for you (to clear up this point) as Allah has stated: ‘And no bearer of burden shall bear the burden of another.’’ [Surah az-Zumar, Ch.39: V.8].’ Ibn Abbasra then said, ‘Only Allah makes one laugh or cry.’ Ibn Umarra did not say anything after that.”
(Sahih al-Bukhari, Kitab al-jana‘iz, Hadith 1286-1288)