In homes, classrooms and communities across the world, a quiet crisis is unfolding. One that rarely dominates headlines yet increasingly shapes the future of societies. A growing number of boys and young men are struggling to find direction, stability and a sense of identity in a rapidly changing world. Parents sense it in the uncertainty of their sons, teachers observe it in classrooms, and community leaders witness it in the growing distance between young men and the institutions meant to guide them.
The evidence of this struggle appears across multiple social indicators. In many countries, young men are falling behind in education and social development. Social data from many countries shows that men experience significantly higher rates of suicide, often two to four times higher depending on the country. According to data published by the World Health Organization, men account for the majority of suicide deaths globally, a pattern that appears consistently across cultures and regions. They are also disproportionately represented in incarceration statistics, drug addiction and school dropout rates. These patterns are not confined to one society or culture; they appear across much of the developed world.
Though statistics do not tell the entire story, they point toward a deeper concern. Behind these numbers are young men who feel disconnected from meaningful work, uncertain about their future roles within family life, and unsure of where to seek guidance.
Recognising these challenges does not diminish the remarkable progress women have made in education, professional life and public leadership. That progress has been both necessary and beneficial for society. However, the advancement of women should not obscure the difficulties that many boys and young men now face.
Islam does not view human development as a competition between genders. Rather, it establishes a balanced system in which families, communities and faith work together to cultivate individuals of strong character and purpose.
For much of history, young men were shaped by clear structures of mentorship within their societies. When these structures weaken, the process through which boys grow into responsible men becomes uncertain, leaving many young men to navigate adulthood without clear models of discipline, responsibility, and purpose.
It is therefore essential to examine how faith, mentorship and family life can help restore direction for a generation of young men searching for meaning. For parents raising sons today, the question is becoming increasingly urgent: how do we prepare young men for a world that is changing faster than previous generations experienced?
The importance of mentorship
Young boys naturally look for examples of the kind of men they wish to become. Throughout history, societies have recognised the importance of mentorship in shaping future leaders. From the tutors of Roman emperors to Aristotle’s mentorship of Alexander the Great, influential families throughout history ensured that their sons were guided by experienced and capable men. Today, fathers, grandfathers and community leaders must consciously fill this void.
In modern education systems, however, many boys pass through their formative years with very few male mentors. In many countries today, teaching has become a predominantly female profession, partly because lower financial incentives have discouraged many men from entering the field. While countless female educators provide extraordinary guidance and care, the scarcity of male role models can create a gap for boys who benefit from observing positive male leadership.
In many cases, boys may struggle to find male role models within the classroom environment. If boys rarely encounter men they can admire and emulate, it can leave a gap in their understanding of what it means to grow into a capable and responsible man. Positive role models help develop discipline, resilience and a sense of responsibility. Without them, many struggle to envision a meaningful path forward.
Within the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community, auxiliary organisations such as Atfal-ul-Ahmadiyya and Khuddam-ul-Ahmadiyya provide structured environments where young men receive mentorship, discipline and spiritual guidance. Through regular meetings, educational programs, sports activities and opportunities for service, these auxiliaries help cultivate qualities of leadership, humility and brotherhood. Such structures reflect a long-standing understanding that the moral and spiritual training of young men cannot be left to chance; it must be nurtured through organised mentorship and collective responsibility. The absence of such guidance affects not only personal development but also the confidence with which young men approach adult responsibilities.
Economic pressures and the question of marriage
Another challenge facing young men relates to economic expectations. In many societies, marriage has historically been associated with a man’s ability to provide financial stability for a family.
However, economic structures have changed dramatically. Traditional pathways into stable middle-class livelihoods, particularly for men without advanced degrees, have diminished in many parts of the world. At the same time, women have achieved remarkable success in higher education and professional fields such as medicine, law and academia.
These shifts have produced a new tension. Many women feel there are fewer suitable partners who meet their expectations for long-term stability, while many men feel overwhelmed by economic pressures and uncertain about their ability to provide. This dynamic is visible across both Muslim and non-Muslim societies. When young men lose confidence in their ability to fulfil meaningful roles in family life, some appear to delay or withdraw from pursuing marriage altogether.
Islam places profound importance on marriage and family life. The Holy Prophet Muhammad (sa) encouraged believers to marry and build families that nurture future generations. Strong families form the foundation of healthy societies.
Today, however, declining marriage rates and falling birth rates across many countries highlight a growing crisis of family formation. In some nations, demographic decline has become so severe that schools and childcare facilities are closing due to a lack of children. These trends remind us that the choices made by one generation shape the future of the next.
The rise of isolation and digital escapism
In the absence of purpose and mentorship, many young men retreat into digital environments. Video games, social media platforms and online streaming services provide an easy escape from the frustrations of real life. Within virtual worlds, individuals can easily and instantly achieve status, recognition and progress.
However, these achievements exist only within virtual environments. The brain experiences the reward of accomplishment while real-world skills and relationships remain underdeveloped.
Similarly, the widespread availability of explicit online content has distorted expectations surrounding relationships and intimacy. Many young men develop unrealistic ideas about human relationships, which can lead to anxiety, social discomfort and further withdrawal from real-life interactions. The result is often a cycle of isolation.
Channelling the energy of young men
Boys naturally possess energy, competitiveness and physical drive. When channelled properly, these qualities lead to remarkable achievements. When neglected or misdirected, however, the same energy can become destructive.
Historically, societies developed institutions, sports teams, apprenticeships, community organisations and mentorship structures that channelled this energy into productive pathways. Rebuilding such environments is essential if young men are to develop discipline and purpose.
Rebuilding pathways for young men
Communities must take practical steps to guide young men toward productive and meaningful lives. This includes strengthening family mentorship, encouraging greater participation in congregational prayer and creating environments where boys can develop discipline through service, sports, and community engagement.
Institutions within the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community, such as Atfal-ul-Ahmadiyya and Khuddam-ul-Ahmadiyya, already provide important structures for nurturing the next generation. By investing in these initiatives and strengthening relationships between elders and youth, communities can help young men develop confidence, responsibility and faith.
Such efforts remind us that the development of young men cannot be left to chance; it must be cultivated through deliberate mentorship and spiritual guidance.
Congregational prayer and spiritual formation
Islam offers a powerful framework for shaping the character of young men. One of the most important institutions in this regard is congregational prayer.
The Holy Quran commands believers:
“O ye who believe! When the call is made for prayer on Friday, hasten to the remembrance of Allah and leave off business.” (Surah al-Jumu‘ah, Ch.62: V.10)
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (sa) emphasised the importance of responding to this call. In one narration, he stated:
“The Friday prayer in congregation is a necessary duty for every Muslim, with four exceptions; a slave, a woman, a boy, and a sick person.” (Sunan Abi Dawud, Hadith 1067)
Congregational worship is not a mere ritual but rather is a system of moral formation. In the mosque, boys stand shoulder to shoulder with elders, witnessing discipline, humility and brotherhood in practice.
Hazrat Mirza Bashir-ud-Din Mahmud Ahmad (ra), Khalifatul Masih II repeatedly emphasised this principle. Reflecting on the importance of congregational prayer, he stated that if a person has the ability to attend a prayer at the mosque yet neglects congregational prayer, his worship loses its spirit and vitality. The purpose of such worship, he explained, is to cultivate living faith through collective devotion and discipline. (Blessings of Khilafat, p. 115)
Through such practices, Islam builds communities where younger generations grow under the guidance of elders.
Fathers and the responsibility of guidance
Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aa) has repeatedly reminded parents that the future of faith depends on the upbringing of the next generation. He has stated on multiple occasions that parents must pay close attention to the moral and spiritual training of their children, warning that neglect in this responsibility can lead future generations to drift away from faith.
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (sa) emphasised this responsibility in clear terms:
“Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The imam who is over the people is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock; a man is a shepherd in charge of the inhabitants of his household and he is responsible for his flock […].” (Mishkat al-Masabih, Hadith 3685)
Personal reflections
As a father raising young sons in today’s world, these questions feel increasingly personal. Like many parents, I sometimes wonder what kind of environment will shape their understanding of manhood. Will they grow up surrounded by examples of discipline, humility and responsibility, or will the loudest voices influencing them come from digital platforms that reward attention rather than character?
These reflections are questions many fathers quietly carry while trying to guide their sons through a complex and rapidly changing world.
The Promised Messiah, Hazrat Mirza Ghulam Ahmad (as), repeatedly emphasised the importance of moral training within the home. He advised parents that the character of children is shaped through consistent guidance and example, and that the reformation of a community begins with the reformation of individuals within their own households.
The lives of prophets and righteous leaders demonstrate a lifelong commitment to learning and guiding others. Even in advanced age, they continued to teach, mentor, and serve their communities.
The challenges facing young men today cannot be solved by blaming one gender or romanticising the past. They require renewed commitment from families, communities and institutions.
Young men themselves must also reflect deeply:
Am I disciplined in my prayers?
Am I developing my knowledge and skills?
Am I caring for my physical and mental health?
Am I contributing to my family and community?
When communities invest in mentoring young men through faith, education and strong family structures, the same generation that today appears lost can become a generation of renewal.
Every society eventually faces the consequences of how it raises its young men. When boys grow without guidance, discipline and purpose, the consequences are felt in weakened communities and fragile societies.
But when young men are nurtured with faith, mentorship and responsibility, they become protectors of their families, servants of their communities and builders of a better future.
The task before us is therefore not merely to observe the crisis; it is to respond to it with wisdom, utmost compassion and the timeless guidance of faith.